Sex toys: tips for beginners

Specialists give recommendations for those who seek to venture into the use of sex toys. The most used.

Prejudice, fear of bringing it up with your partner, taboos, various beliefs, shame, not knowing where to start, and ignorance on the subject are some of the obstacles why many couples have not yet dared to venture into the world of 오나홀. The offer is varied: articles of different sizes, textures, materials, and colors, designed for sexual enjoyment individually or within the loving bond.

"What I always tell my patients is that it's a matter of trying. It's like saying 'I don't like ice cream, but I've never tried it.' There's nothing wrong with trying, and if I don't like ice cream, there is no need to try it again. Or maybe that day I wasn't ready or didn't feel like it and I can try it later ", graphs in dialogue with Clarín Mariela Tomassini, Psychologist and Clinical Sexologist, specializing in Diversity and Gender and Comprehensive Sex Education.

And he expands: " Sexuality can change over time and what I like today and what I don't like can change later. So, it's not about missing something, but it would be adding something to your sex life, but nothing happens if you don't there is interest. The important thing is that this decision is not due to socio-cultural taboos. You can always do a sexological consultation to work on them, which in many cases do not allow you to enjoy full and prejudice-free sexuality".

The most used

Although the variety of toys that exist is enormous, the most used in Argentina are the remote vibrating ring, the clitoris sucker, the Strap On (the dildo known as the female penis), and the penis vibrator.

"Adding 오나홀 helps to break the monotony and experience new sensations. Change, innovation, creativity are unquestionable, being able to increase excitement and predispose you to the moment of intimate encounter. In addition, they are of great help for those people who present some type of sexual dysfunction ", explains Lourdes Budes, a graduate in Psychology with a Specialization in Clinical Sexology.

 Where to start?

Tomassini affirms that it is important to cheer up and let go of taboos since the toy comes to complement and not to replace anyone.

"You can search together, or if one of the parties already has one in mind, you can show it to them. I advise going from less to more. Rings, vibrators, clitoral suckers, dildos for double stimulation, bullets," he lists.

Budes emphasizes getting in-depth information about what you are looking for, according to your tastes, which is why she suggests looking at online stores or at a sex shop.

"When you know what is available and what you want, you can bring it up with your partner and tell him that you would be interested in incorporating an erotic toy into your intimate life. Above all, emphasize that you want to enjoy it with him or her and excite him or her with the idea ", expresses Budes.

Clarín consulted sex toy vendors, who tell of their experience in serving people who dare to venture into the subject for the first time.

"We notice a lot of doubts regarding myths that toys have, such as size, vibration, and the function they fulfill. In general, we see more doubts in the male public that does not want to be 'impersonated by a toy. Therefore, they start buying lubricants, oils, and candles ", says Damián Goldfinger, responsible for the Networks and Commercial Area of ​​Suich Argentina.

"However -he continues-, when we clarify their doubts (what size is it, how many vibration functions do they have, what type of lubricant is ideal for the type of sex they are looking for), the public responds affirmatively."

Goldfinger recommends starting with dice games, card games, massage oils, massage candles, edible oils, handcuffs, and bed harnesses.

"The sex toys that we sell are not only for sexual intercourse, we have some that are used for foreplay, such as flavored gels and oils that we highly recommend, more than anything for use in massages. They have a heating effect that stimulates pleasure," says Alicia Arismendi, owner of Sexshopm.

And he continues: "In addition, we highly suggest penis rings that, although they are for use by men, will give satisfaction to women. At the same time, it creates a more powerful and lasting erection. Others are dildos, more known as dildos, a must-have classic if you're just starting out ".